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Permalink Reply by mountainman on July 21, 2011 at 12:42pm

My wife had the same " light sleeper " thing goin on before she kicked me out of the Master bedroom . I am now ASSIGNED to a smaller room at the other end of the house and she sleeps with the TV on and an Air Ionizer machine running all nite . Sounds like the machine noise was NOT the problem . Be hosest with yourself about why you can't sleep - try some WHITE NOISE MACHINES running in the background - maybe a bigger bed . Loosing the intamacy of sleeping together is a recipe for disaster ; i know this first hand .Tired of Cpap machine said:

There is nothing else.  I sleep at the foot of the bed, due to the sound of the machine, and he used to have a bad fitting mask that blew cold air on me all night.  I have just been pushed to my breaking point.  I am tired of being made fun of for taking naps.  I work full-time, go to school one night a week, and have sneaky teenagers in my life.  This all takes a toll on a person after a while.  I only joined this forum to see if there were suggestions.   I have asked him numerous times to call his doctor, and he will not do it.  He gets mad if I do it.  I just want my fair share of sleep.  I can no longer operate as a robot.  As I answered in the comment above, I have asked for a different room to sleep and I have been told no.   I just want to get my Zzzzz's.

RockRpsgt said:

I am sorry as I may have not been empathetic to your situation. Honestly I can't understand your situation as I have never been pushed that far. I do understand what not sleeping welll does. Your husband coming off PAP is most likely not an option. other than that can you think of any other options to get a good night's rest for yourself?

 

It sounds to me like there is more to this than just bad sleep.

Tired of Cpap machine said:

oh yes I understand this affects his health.  But I am cranky all day and have to be tired all of the time.   But what about my sleep - my light sleep is just because I am mom - and have to listen for sneaky teenagers or their boyfriends sneaking in.    I always hear about his health - sorry this has gone on for years - and I am TIRED literally.  I have to sleep at the foot of the bed because I can't stand the sound of the machine.  But I know his health should come first - but I am really tired of this machine.  If you could possibly understand my side.    Maybe there is another solution to his sleep disorder than a machine.

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Permalink Reply by Tired of Cpap machine on July 21, 2011 at 6:22pm

I will try the ear plugs, but I already sleep with a fan on low and the TV on all night as my white noise.   Thank you all.  

mountainman said:

My wife had the same " light sleeper " thing goin on before she kicked me out of the Master bedroom . I am now ASSIGNED to a smaller room at the other end of the house and she sleeps with the TV on and an Air Ionizer machine running all nite . Sounds like the machine noise was NOT the problem . Be hosest with yourself about why you can't sleep - try some WHITE NOISE MACHINES running in the background - maybe a bigger bed . Loosing the intamacy of sleeping together is a recipe for disaster ; i know this first hand .Tired of Cpap machine said:

There is nothing else.  I sleep at the foot of the bed, due to the sound of the machine, and he used to have a bad fitting mask that blew cold air on me all night.  I have just been pushed to my breaking point.  I am tired of being made fun of for taking naps.  I work full-time, go to school one night a week, and have sneaky teenagers in my life.  This all takes a toll on a person after a while.  I only joined this forum to see if there were suggestions.   I have asked him numerous times to call his doctor, and he will not do it.  He gets mad if I do it.  I just want my fair share of sleep.  I can no longer operate as a robot.  As I answered in the comment above, I have asked for a different room to sleep and I have been told no.   I just want to get my Zzzzz's.

RockRpsgt said:

I am sorry as I may have not been empathetic to your situation. Honestly I can't understand your situation as I have never been pushed that far. I do understand what not sleeping welll does. Your husband coming off PAP is most likely not an option. other than that can you think of any other options to get a good night's rest for yourself?

 

It sounds to me like there is more to this than just bad sleep.

Tired of Cpap machine said:

oh yes I understand this affects his health.  But I am cranky all day and have to be tired all of the time.   But what about my sleep - my light sleep is just because I am mom - and have to listen for sneaky teenagers or their boyfriends sneaking in.    I always hear about his health - sorry this has gone on for years - and I am TIRED literally.  I have to sleep at the foot of the bed because I can't stand the sound of the machine.  But I know his health should come first - but I am really tired of this machine.  If you could possibly understand my side.    Maybe there is another solution to his sleep disorder than a machine.

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Permalink Reply by RockRpsgt on July 21, 2011 at 9:32pm

So the tv and fan don't keep you awake?! The CPAP does? This does not make sense to me. It does not sound like your bedroom is conducive to sleep.

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Permalink Reply by Darillyn Patterson on July 21, 2011 at 10:39pm

If all else fails, go ahead and sleep in a separate room.   Don't even discuss it with him.  Point out to him that husband and wife are supposed to love each other.   That's even more important than sleeping in the same room.  It seems to me he is lacking in his love for you because he is insensitive to your need for quality sleep.   Does he know you are considering divorce?  If he wants the marriage to remain intact, he'll allow you to do whatever is necessary to get the sleep you need at night.  After all, why should only one of you (your husband)  have quality sleep?   A loving husband would want his wife to be happy.  Quite evidently, you are very unhappy.  I pray that a solution to this dilemma will soon be found.  I've raised 5 children.  Keep in mind that the teen years don't last forever.  Thank God!

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Permalink Reply by Ginny Edmundson on July 22, 2011 at 8:20am

My thoughts exactly!

RockRpsgt said:

So the tv and fan don't keep you awake?! The CPAP does? This does not make sense to me. It does not sound like your bedroom is conducive to sleep.

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Permalink Reply by Clueless in Redwood Shores on July 22, 2011 at 11:07pm

The newest Resmed, the S9, is the first machine that my wife has found tolerable -- she had complained about noise from all earlier CPAPs. I do use BiPap and pretty high pressure (21 over 15). On the other hand, I wore earplugs to sleeep through her snoring...

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Permalink Reply by Ginny Edmundson on July 23, 2011 at 7:47am

Her snoring????  Maybe she has sleep apnea too!   :)

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Permalink Reply by Mary Z on July 23, 2011 at 1:36pm

The second time I read through this thread I wondered how you would get any sleep even without the CPAP machine noise.  You are sleeping lightly listening for sneaky teenagers for one thing and are also over stressed from a very busy life.  I think  blaming CPAP machine is easier to do than face up to the fact that you don't trust your teenagers and are busy listening for them all night.  Don't get me wrong- you need and deserve your sleep, but it sounds like there's a lot in the household that needs to be fixed  You got some good suggestions if the noise of the CPAP is really the problem.  I know I am not Ann Landers and don't deal with a situation like yours on a daily basis so take what I say with two grains of salt.  Think about what you can do about the other reasons you sleep so lightly.  Perhaps a sleeping aid in the short term would help you catch up.  Is there any other way to control your teenagers besides listening for them all night?  I don't know how old they are, but perhaps old enough to be responsible for the consequences of their actions.  Is your husband sharing in the worrying, policing, and discipline?  I wish you the best of luck.  I know that not getting enough sleep can really be a problem.  Try to ignore the jokes about your napping and hang in there.  Attack this problem on all related fronts.  Good luck.

 

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Permalink Reply by Judy on July 23, 2011 at 4:03pm

Wasn't it Sally Jesse Raphael who said "teenagers aren't even human"???

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Permalink Reply by Dianne on July 25, 2011 at 9:57pm

Hello everyone,
I am new to cpap (one week today) and a new member to this group (joined today). As I am scrolling through the discussions, this one peaked my curiosity. Hopefully I won't be expelled right off the bat but my instincts tell me the writer is "yanking our chains"... And my instincts are pretty good. Notice that no suggestions are given credence. Sounds like someone either looking for attention or someone "posing" as an apnea spouse. Again, I am a newbie but:
1) machines are pretty quiet; 2) earplugs work; 3) anyone whose spouse was this selfish would gladly pack them off to the guest room and 5) women these days are not shy about seeking quiet solitude in another bedroom.
So, I hope I haven't burned my bridges on my very first post because I actually do come in peace...but if the writer is for real, then I'm guessing that cpap is not the real problem.

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Permalink Reply by Dianne on July 25, 2011 at 10:00pm

Oops , I see I left out number 4; a sure sign that I am sleep deprived. I may forget numbers but never forget to have a sense if humor :-)

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Permalink Reply by Mary Z on July 26, 2011 at 9:49am

Welcome to the forum.  Good post, Diane.

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